Congratulations! You are now engaged! The next step is to decide which key honoured people are going to help you along the way…
Ultimately it is a decision everyone hates. Choosing which of your nearest and dearest are going to be your Bridesmaids and Groomsmen. Many a couple have faced this agonizing decision and come up short – but don’t panic! We here at Valentine’s weddings have a few top tips on choosing your Bridesmaids and Groomsmen that won’t let you down in your hour of need!
Deciding Who to Choose
Deciding who you want to perform such responsible duties is no mean feat. We put together a few guidelines to help you out below; but you can start by writing all of the potential names on a list and we will help you narrow it down.
A few considerations first…Many couples wonder whether or not to include siblings or cousins in the Bridal Brigade. This is absolutely fine and shouldn’t be cause for concern. Your family love you and will happily take part. As for the old rule about having even numbers of male/female party members? Forget it. This is 2019. If you want male bridesmaids and female ushers then Go. For. It.
Narrowing down the list of potentials!
First of all you have to think of yourself. It’s your wedding and your big event – so if any potential bridesmaids or ushers aren’t up to the task score them off the list.
Second: consider finances. Being involved in a wedding can become pricey, so score off all of the people on your list who won’t be able to afford the ongoing cost.
Third: Think of your future. Who is going to be at your side in ten years and who will have moved on with their lives? Who is good Godparent material? Score off those names that won’t be around for your kid’s first birthday.
Fourth: Of those that are left on your list think in detail about their responsibilities and try to match those with the right skills for your needs. Have a friend who is super organized? Might be a good idea to put them at the top of the list…
Of those you have left on your list you should now be able to make a decision. Remember – sometimes the busiest people are the ones most likely to move heaven and earth on your behalf…
Pro Tip: A general rule is to have no more than six attendants each when planning your wedding party. Check out this FAQ on the Knot for more information.
Your Second Most Important Proposal…
People put a lot of thought into how to pop the question to their friends. From parties to puzzles – you can do it any way you like! Visit this article from Brides Magazine for some really creative ideas on how to ask your Bridesmaids to join your wedding party.
Pro Tip: Never ever – EVER – ask a friend to be a Groomsman or Bridesmaid on a night out. Drunkenly proposing such a mammoth undertaking and expecting all parties involved to remember the outcome of the conversation is a recipe for disaster!
Valentine’s Weddings Bridesmaids Guide!
As usual, we here at Valentine’s Wedding Planners in London have already figured out a solution to the problem of unruly bridal parties! Our guide for Bridesmaids allows you to hand out a clear, thorough and straightforward guide for all of your Bridesmaids which outlines their duties and responsibilities without any awkward conversations!